[Women] Thriving theme for Oct.

[Annie Warmke]

Here's a brief outline of what what we discussed at dinner last Wed.  My 
brain was completely shut down so I wrongly stated the theme was 
healing, but instead it is "thriving".  I put this talk together because 
I wanted to be able to say positive things about how to move forward as 
people, not just women.   I think we could use this like a reading, with 
each topic including a very short story read by different women.   It's 
meant as a guide - perhaps there are more topics that need to be added.  
I wanted to make it manageable as a 30 minute talk with examples.

The goal, as we discussed is to use this in Oct. for National Domestic 
Violence Month.  If so, I only have Oct. 13th available. I think Jane 
mentioned that we would need a brief dress rehearsal, but we could also 
have a conference call to shape each short story.  Just some thoughts to 
add to the discussion.

12 Steps to Thriving by Annie Warmke

During the coffee time a thriving banner will be created by people 
attending with a long sheet of packaging paper hanging up and markers so 
that it can be shared to create affirmations for flourishing, healing 
and success at thriving.

1: Face Your Fears: Culture promotes fear as control. Take that first 
step. It isn't the Grand Canyon.

2: Accept that your culture's version of being a man or a woman is a lie 
– tightly held cultural norms about who women and men can be.

3: Learn to love me - Maybe the hardest – change self-talk. We talk to 
ourselves at 15,000 words a minute so that meant I had to change my 
self-talk.

4. Develop a simple practice of meditation - take time for your needs 
and lower stress levels.

5: Expand my experiences – by investing in others – take a course, help 
out at something you want to learn

6: Meet others 50% of the way – invest in others but wisely – 
friendships/mentoring/peers

7: Learn to ask for what I need – sometimes I need to know what others 
think. It's what helps me to be successful in my work. I also need to 
feel nourished. There's nothing wrong with asking if you did a good job, 
or what people think of your work, or decisions or goals. It's all in 
how you ask, and who you ask.

8: Have a plan for my life – don't be Christopher Columbus

9: Love doesn't conquer all – I can love someone or something but not 
subject myself. Don't dirty fight – own my thoughts and feelings, use 
more emotions then anger/sadness, say things in a way that the other 
person can listen to me

10: Speak the truth – others speak of their bigotry, racism, hate – 
don't let it in. Decide ahead of time what to say.

11: Expect the males in your life to speak up to other men against 
sexism and racism.

12: Boldly walk only on my path – I can't give away something I don't 
have, boldness, confidence, etc. and I can't help by always taking on 
the role of the rescuer. Thriving takes lots of work and constant vigil.


-- 
Annie Warmke
Farmer, activist, consultant, writer
Blue Rock Station/Warmke Farm LLC
www.bluerockstation.com
(740) 674-4300 or (740) 252-6295 Mobile

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