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<p>Here's a brief outline of what what we discussed at dinner last
Wed. My brain was completely shut down so I wrongly stated the
theme was healing, but instead it is "thriving". I put this talk
together because I wanted to be able to say positive things about
how to move forward as people, not just women. I think we could
use this like a reading, with each topic including a very short
story read by different women. It's meant as a guide - perhaps
there are more topics that need to be added. I wanted to make it
manageable as a 30 minute talk with examples.</p>
<p>The goal, as we discussed is to use this in Oct. for National
Domestic Violence Month. If so, I only have Oct. 13th available.
I think Jane mentioned that we would need a brief dress rehearsal,
but we could also have a conference call to shape each short
story. Just some thoughts to add to the discussion.<br>
</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">12 Steps to Thriving by Annie Warmke</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in"><font size="3">During the coffee time
a
thriving banner will be created by people attending with a long
sheet
of packaging paper hanging up and markers so that it can be
shared to create
affirmations for flourishing, healing and success at thriving.</font></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">1: Face Your Fears: Culture promotes
fear as control. Take that first step. It isn't the Grand Canyon.</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">2: Accept that your culture's version
of being a man or a woman is a lie – tightly held cultural norms
about who women and men can be.</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">3: Learn to love me - Maybe the
hardest – change self-talk. We talk to ourselves at 15,000 words a
minute so that meant I had to change my self-talk. </p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in"> </p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">4. Develop a simple practice of
meditation - take time for your needs and lower stress levels.</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">5: Expand my experiences – by
investing in others – take a course, help out at something you
want
to learn</p>
<p>6: Meet others 50% of the way –
invest in others but wisely – friendships/mentoring/peers
</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">7: Learn to ask for what I need –
sometimes I need to know what others think. It's what helps me to
be
successful in my work. I also need to feel nourished. There's
nothing wrong with asking if you did a good job, or what people
think
of your work, or decisions or goals. It's all in how you ask, and
who you ask.
</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">8: Have a plan for my life – don't be
Christopher Columbus
</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">9: Love doesn't conquer all – I can
love someone or something but not subject myself. Don't dirty
fight
– own my thoughts and feelings, use more emotions then
anger/sadness, say things in a way that the other person can
listen
to me
</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">10: Speak the truth – others speak
of their bigotry, racism, hate – don't let it in. Decide ahead of
time what to say.
</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">11: Expect the males in your life to
speak up to other men against sexism and racism.
</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">12: Boldly walk only on my path – I
can't give away something I don't have, boldness, confidence, etc.
and I can't help by always taking on the role of the rescuer.
Thriving takes lots of work and constant vigil.
</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in"><br>
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<pre class="moz-signature" cols="72">--
Annie Warmke
Farmer, activist, consultant, writer
Blue Rock Station/Warmke Farm LLC
<a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="http://www.bluerockstation.com">www.bluerockstation.com</a>
(740) 674-4300 or (740) 252-6295 Mobile
Radio: When the Biomass Hits the Wind Turbine
WOUB Digital Wednesday 9 am
WGRN Digital Friday 11:30 am & Saturday 8:30 am
Publications:
The Business of Goat Herding (BRS Media)
The Journey Toward Nothing (BRS Media)
Naturally Healthy Goats (BRS Media)
Podcasts: bluerockstation.com
When the Biomass Hits the Wind Turbine
Arriving at Blue Rock Station</pre>
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