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[Chris Hoke]

Annie:

 

In talking with folks about their experiences, I would not call it “fear”. I see disappointment, anger, frustration, hurt, . . . but not fear.

 

I do not want the sessions to be on zoom. If someone is very interested in knowing what is going on, then they should be there in person. I do understand, some folks may have a conflict with another commitment. However, the dates for these sessions were posted in advanced. If the person cannot attend, then they can talk with a friend who was at the session (s).

 

Chris

 

From: fuusmchat <fuusmchat-bounces at fuusm.org> On Behalf Of Annie Warmke via fuusmchat
Sent: Friday, July 28, 2023 10:46 AM
To: Ted Goertzel <tedgoertzel at gmail.com>; Ralph Olander via fuusmchat <fuusmchat at fuusm.org>
Cc: Annie Warmke <annie at bluerockstation.com>
Subject: Re: [Fuusmchat] (no subject)

 

Ted and et al;  I need to respond to Ted's latest email because it reached in and grabbed my heart.  Before anyone responds to me I hope you will take time to consider my thoughts.  I'm not attempting to summarize anything but am eager to address Ted's concerns.  They are important to how we proceed.

At the congregational meeting I was so deeply distressed at what I heard that it made me sick at my stomach.  Learning of the pattern of behavior that many of us have experienced individually (not just one person) was unnerving.  From the beginning of my connection to FUUSM there has been the question (in my mind) Ted posed in his email;  "Why do we find it easier to talk about somebody behind their back than face to face?"  

I don't believe it is embarrassment that has caused people to talk behind other's backs, or look the other way - it is often fear of being identified when they tell "their" truth   One time when I was speaking with someone to understand how a FUUSM's committee's process worked the person was a bit combative at my inability to understand what they were explaining.  After I continued to try to drill down to understand the process, the person leaned forward and "whispered" that the last part of the process required another person to contact certain people and that person did not follow through.  That is fear speaking.  

It is clear that we heard "fear" repeatedly on Wednesday.  My hope is that we continue to put that fear on the table so we can learn from it and move on to making some decisions that heal us, but also create a system that does not allow the types of consistent behavior we are learning about to continue.  Also, I am hoping that the people who have heard the stories of heartache and real fear do not look away from the truths being shared.  It takes great courage to stand up in front of our peers, and people we care about, let alone to share stories that describe abuse, and a sense of being unsafe.

Didn't the information sent out originally state we would be on Zoom?.  Zoom is possible and can be done easily, as Ted pointed out.  If there are objections then let's hear (email?) them so we can move forward.  Annie

On 7/28/2023 7:51 AM, Ted Goertzel wrote:

Why do we find it easier to talk about somebody behind their back than face to face?  

 


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