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<p>Maureen; Thank you for sharing your strategies. I feel like you
gave a gift with your second paragraph. Rebecca Phillips sent out
a rough draft of the points we plan to present to the board before
their meeting on Monday and I haven't had time to review them but
your points are well-taken and appreciated more then you could
know. Regards, Annie<br>
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I have a couple of thoughts based on harassment at my workplaces:
First, it does no good to mildly rebuke the harasser. My first
harasser used to ogle and leer whenever I approached his desk,
which I had to do frequently. He was sitting on a high stool (he
was a dispatcher) and one day I accidentally brushed his crotch
area. He started hooting and I just snapped. I said very loudly
“John, f*** off!” There was dead silence in the dispatcher’s room
for several minutes. I never had a problem again. Make a stink. Be
loud.
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<div class="">The second technique is based on advice to document
workplace incidents, when, where and what. I wrote a letter to
my harasser recounting what he did and when and asking him to
stop. When the time was right I used it with satisfactory
results.</div>
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<div class="">In all my experiences I was harassed by men whom I’d
turned down for a date or had otherwise hurt their little egos,
no matter how gently. Remember that these incidents are all
about revenge and aggression, so respond accordingly. It sounds
like we need a UU Me Too.<br class="">
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<div class="">On Feb 5, 2021, at 9:53 AM, Teresa Hayes via
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This was sent to all of the women's group not to
Karen or Rebecca alone.<br class="">
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I don't object to this being sent to everyone, but
I do want to point out that there are two reply
arrows that one can use on e-mails. The single
arrow replies to the person who sent the e-mail
and the double arrow replies to the entire group,
in this instance to the women's group. In many
cases it's important to be sure who you are
replying to.<br class="">
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Since it came to everyone, I wanted to offer an
opinion. It's important for the woman who is
being harassed to step into her own power and let
Paul know his advances are unwanted. I know some
women do not feel capable of doing this, so it is
up to each of us who do, to step forward and
support our sisters until they do feel empowered
enough to speak for themselves. After all, Paul
is not the only man in our community who might
sexually harass a woman. By community I mean our
church community, work community, larger
community, any community of which a woman may be a
member.<br class="">
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So, standing on the side of love for my sisters, I
suggest we formulate a plan to let Paul know that
his advances and sexual harassment will not be
tolerated. And we need to base this upon either
existing church policy, or develop a church policy
that addresses sexual harassment. It really is no
more difficult than we make it.<br class="">
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If anyone wishes to reply to me personally about
this, please feel free to do so. <a
href="mailto:teresa_asselinhayes_2000@yahoo.com"
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<p class="">This has to do with Paul Dunn
and his sexual harassment of at least four
women in the months before he left. It is
reported that he is returning in a few
days so this is very worrisome me that
women are not safe in our church family.
I am concerned also because four came
forward but how many others are there?
Initially (July 2019) a man spoke from
church spoke to me about Paul and asked
what to do. I suggested he go to the
board president and Kat. He did do that
but nothing came of it. </p>
<p class="">Now that Paul is returning the
man who spoke up is very concerned, and
spoke to me again. I asked him to talk to
Kat and the board to find out what our
policy is on handling sexual harassment.
He was told that they would work on it on
Monday at the board meeting. That made me
wonder if there is a policy, and if so,
why weren't they adhering to it?</p>
<p class="">I brought the initial report up
at the Women's mo. meeting in Aug. 2019
and asked what could be done. There was a
discussion but nothing came of it. I
don't feel we should be the ones taking
the lead on this. It is the men who must
step up and support the one who initially
brought it to everyone's attention.</p>
<p class="">It is clear something needs to
be done before Paul returns. Shouldn't
we, as a women's group make a statement
about sexual harassment and how we want it
dealt with? I cannot look away. Annie</p>
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women, we may want to address? Annie</p>
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When the Biomass Hits the Wind Turbine
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