<html><head><meta http-equiv="content-type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"></head><body dir="auto">Annie, is like to take #2, about cultural norms of gender roles. I still have lots of questions about how these little talks are focused—positive experiences or negative examples, how long is each one, totally personal examples, etc?<div><br></div><div>Suzyn Mills<br><br><div id="AppleMailSignature" dir="ltr">Sent from my iPhone</div><div dir="ltr"><br>On Sep 25, 2019, at 8:38 AM, Annie Warmke via Women <<a href="mailto:women@fuusm.org">women@fuusm.org</a>> wrote:<br><br></div><blockquote type="cite"><div dir="ltr">
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<p>Here's the basic outline of topics of ways to thrive (for
National Domestic Violence month) that we will use for the Oct.
30th UU service. The education one is taken. Please pick a topic
to share a personal story about (2 min. or less) and let me know
which one speaks to you. Don't worry about following a format
based on my comments on the page. This is an outline from a talk
I've given a few times. Jane and I are working on creating a
banner that we can either hang in the sanctuary or downstairs for
anyone to draw/write on showing ways that they thrive. I look
forward to hearing from you. Annie<br>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">12 Steps to Thriving by Annie Warmke</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in"><font size="3">During the coffee time
a
thriving banner will be created by people attending with a long
sheet
of packaging paper and markers so that it can be shared to
create
affirmations for flourishing, healing and success at thriving.</font></p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">1: Face Your Fears: Culture promotes
fear as control. Take that first step. It isn't the Grand Canyon.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">2: Accept that your culture's version
of being a man or a woman is a lie – tightly held cultural norms
about who women and men are unhealthy.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">3: Learn to love me - Maybe the
hardest – change self-talk. We talk to ourselves at 15,000 words a
minute so that means negative self-talk is powerful – how to
change
it. </p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">4. Develop a simple practice of
meditation - take time for your needs and lower stress levels.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">5: Expand my experiences – by
investing in others – take a course, help out at something you
want
to learn</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">6: Meet others 50% of the way –
invest in others but wisely – friendships/mentoring/peers</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">7: Learn to ask for what I need –
sometimes I need to know what others think. It's what helps me to
be
successful in my work. I also need to feel nourished. There's
nothing wrong with asking if you did a good job, or what people
think
of your work, or decisions or goals. It's all in how you ask, and
who you ask.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">8: Have a plan for my life – don't be
Christopher Columbus</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">9: Love doesn't conquer all – I can
love someone or something but not subject myself. Don't dirty
fight
– own my thoughts and feelings, use more emotions then
anger/sadness, say things in a way that the other person can
listen
to me</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">10: Speak the truth – others speak
of their bigotry, racism, hate – don't let it in. Decide ahead of
time what to say.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">11: Expect the males in your life to
speak up to other men against sexism and racism.</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in">12: Boldly walk only on my path – I
can't give away something I don't have, boldness, confidence, etc.
and I can't help by always taking on the role of the rescuer.
Thriving takes lots of work and constant vigil.</p>
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<pre class="moz-quote-pre" wrap="">Hi Annie. I have tried and can’t find your initial email that had lists of topics. Please send to me again. I’m in Israel and listening to everyone around talking about the election here which will be Tuesday. Netanyahu loses and goes to prison. Netanyahu wins and stays prime minister. About equal in all categories as our fearful leader. Only difference is Netanyahu is smart.
So it’s like being in any place in USA and listening to talk about trump. Ok
Enuf rambling. Thank you. I’ll appreciate a copy. Lori
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On Sep 8, 2019, at 10:57 PM, Annie Warmke <a class="moz-txt-link-rfc2396E" href="mailto:annie@bluerockstation.com"><annie@bluerockstation.com></a> wrote:
Fantastic! What topic did you want to pick. The only one taken is one on learning/education. Annie
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<pre class="moz-quote-pre" wrap="">On 9/6/2019 11:33 AM, lori fahn wrote:
I will be in Israel sept 8-22. I want to volunteer for any part of this. I can take a topic to discuss. I can help with any part that you are assigning. Anyway, just a note to let you know I will be gone when you have organizational meeting. But I am volunteering. Please keep me posted
Thank you
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On Sep 5, 2019, at 2:48 PM, Annie Warmke via Women <a class="moz-txt-link-rfc2396E" href="mailto:women@fuusm.org"><women@fuusm.org></a> wrote:
At the last women's dinner we discussed putting something together for the Oct. 13th. I've attached the 12 ways to thrive piece we can use as our guide. I think we will want to have a brief meeting before or after one of the upcoming services to walk through how things would work that day. One or two women will take one of the 12 topics outlined and tell a story about the topic...one or two minutes long. We need to decide some music perhaps and what else we might do. I was thinking we might have some large sheets of paper at the coffee time so anyone can write on them listing other ways to thrive. I await your eager participation. Annie
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