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    <p>Shari;  We need you so please hang in there.  This is a time of
      transition for FUUSM and we are trying to find our way.  Hugs to
      you...and thanks for not being one to "pussyfoot around with a
      problem".  Annie<br>
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    <div class="moz-cite-prefix">On 5/15/2023 1:27 PM, Shari Miller via
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      Dear friends, I can not understand why as the core of the church
      has no say in what we want. While I don’t have any issues with Kat
      , it saddens me that she feels the need to bully her way into
      this. How strong do I feel about this? I am currently considering
      dropping our membership. As most people that know me, I am not one
      to pussyfoot around with a problem. I face it straight on. And
      Kat, my question to you is that what you want? Peace to us all,
      Shari<br>
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        <blockquote type="cite">On May 15, 2023, at 12:59 PM,
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          Thank you, Darryl. <br>
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            On Monday, May 15, 2023, 11:06 AM, Darryl Ting via Fuusm-l
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                    Dear FUUSM Community,</p>
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                    At the end of the annual congregational meeting in
                    April, (under “Other business for the Good of the
                    Order”), I made a motion that there be
                    “congregational style” meetings for the purpose of
                    congregational feedback on the minister’s
                    performance and specifically excluding the
                    minister.  After discussion, the motion was passed. 
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                    To learn more about why I made this motion, what I
                    proposed, and what has happened since … please read
                    on.
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                    Why this motion …</p>
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                    Prior to this, the method of congregational feedback
                    was through congregational surveys.  I pointed out
                    that the survey approach had some significant flaws,
                    notably that the survey questions limited the scope
                    of the feedback, that survey feedback is one way and
                    isolated (no dialogue for clarification and no
                    benefit of hearing other people’s feedback), and
                    that everyone’s feedback counts the same regardless
                    of the amount of interaction they have.  The
                    cumulative impact is that despite the surveys, there
                    is a significant level of frustration within the
                    congregation from people feeling they have not been
                    heard.</p>
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                    What I proposed …</p>
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                    Special congregational meetings to allow the
                    congregation to provide feedback.  That approach
                    would provide better, clearer feedback by
                    eliminating the above-mentioned flaws of surveys. 
                    More importantly, it allows people to express
                    themselves directly … in their own voice, and
                    unfiltered.  And it allows us to form a more
                    informed collective view through the sharing of our
                    individual views. 
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                    Why exclude the minister’s attendance?  I wanted to
                    encourage feedback, and it is not uncommon for
                    people to be reluctant to give or receive negative
                    feedback.  It is just an emotionally difficult thing
                    to do.  The absence of the minister would make it
                    easier for people to speak up.</p>
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                    Follow-up …</p>
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                    At the May 8th Board meeting, the Board determined
                    that it could not call a congregational meeting and
                    exclude the minister.  The minister declined to
                    voluntarily exclude herself.  Therefore, the Board
                    could not implement the motion.</p>
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                    Following the Board decision, a steering group
                    (Karen Binkley, Nancy Luthy, and myself) was formed
                    to develop a plan to implement the motion.  Our
                    target for communicating the details of that plan is
                    the end of May.</p>
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                    Thanks for reading to the end,</p>
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                    Darryl Ting</p>
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